I am angry and hurt. X doesn't want to see us, but does want me to make things for their family.  I am in the middle of a 3 projects for them.  I will finish these.  And one more, so that both children get the same things.  Then I will stop knitting for them.  There is too much anger on my part.  The casual assumptions that I will continue to buy yarn and make things  with no acknowledgement.  That the extended family they married into is enough, that there is another side of parents don't.  Don't forget, they did meet up with another family.  But not us.  Those are their choices.  Now see ours.